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Template - Writing a letter to divorce court in Switzerland

How to communicate clearly and competently with the court and judge in a divorce context.

Disclaimer: I am not a divorce lawyer or officially qualified to give legal advice of any kind. All content that you write, using these templates MUST be reviewed by a lawyer.

I AM a writer and qualified communication specialist with 7+ years of experience in writing court submissions in Switzerland. In my experience, it makes a lot of sense to have your own clear thoughts and perspectives written down before consulting a lawyer that can cost from 150 - 500 CHF per HOUR... just for sitting down with them and talking, not to mention then writing your case documents and submitting them to court!

Divorce communication with the court
Communicate correctly in divorce court

Communicating the facts and getting what you need can be draining - When in a high conflict context, with children to support and work to do it's even more stressful. So the last thing you need is unclear, unhelpful advice. Having defended myself through the Swiss court system up to the highest confederation instance, I noticed somethings that would have been really helpful for me to have had.

So I'm here to share clear, concrete tips and examples of how you can communicate your perspective in a way that helps get you what you need and reduce your stress at the same time. Clear, objective communication that is delivered to the right audience is what helps you get what you need

Tip #1 - Use a tested, successful template

Why write everything from scratch? Templates are examples of documents with a framework of information inside. They help you to know WHAT KIND OF INFORMATION you need to include to communicate the right thing at the right time and to the right audience.

Template_Letter to Judge_Bezirksgericht_MLaw Frau-Herr ABC
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Tip #2 - Keep your communication clear, neutral and factual

Definitely avoid attacking or blaming language and , in this case when writing to the court administration or judge, only include content that is directly related to the court or judge's direct requests. For example, the submission of payslips or tax documents.

"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place." - George Bernard Shaw"

Tip #3 - Be brave and trust in your simple, authentic truth

At heart, especially when family is involved, we all want the best for our children, but sometimes we feel unheard or misunderstood.

Please, don't give up!

Take the time to really connect with what is important to you and best for your children. At the same time, keep your mind and heart open to different perspectives and solutions that could also benefit your children.

Tip #5 - Take the time you need to gather your thoughts

Figuring out your truth, what you think and how you feel isn't always as easy as they say...Let alone writing it down.

Check out my blog series on "Intimate Monologues", a series of insights in to voicing your authentic perspective and needs.

Good communication is a game-changer

Authentic and effective communication is a game changing tool in maintaining good relationships, and in conflict situations with children involved, it's even more important.

During divorce, there's so much at stake and the way we communicate has the power to heal and provide safety for everyone.

If you need support with writing concrete, detailed documents, reach out to me for a more detailed template.

Or get in touch to see if a half day workshop, that results in the concrete, divorce document you need, is right for you.

And feel free to leave a comment below...


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